You reap what you sow.
If you approach a task, event, or experience with negativity, you are far more likely to get back negativity. You really do create your own experience with your attitude.
I’ve heard this a million times, but I only recently realized how true it is. Since I have settled into maintaining my weight and especially since I’ve been taking yoga, I feel like I have finally slowed down after running a long race and I have time to contemplate what I learned along the way and how things are different now.
“Cynical” and “sarcastic” are two words I would have used to describe myself for most of my life. Somehow, I never realized that it was a defense mechanism. Letting people know that I care about something makes me very vulnerable. What if they ridicule me? It hurts so much more when it’s something I really care about. It’s so much easier to crack a snarky or self-deprecating joke. So much easier to make a sarcastic comment.
I’ve realized that I’ve changed immensely and I don’t remember ever deciding to be different. It just happened. I feel like in a lot of ways I’m more serious about everything. My immediate reaction isn’t to make a cynical or sarcastic remark, but rather to give my honest opinion. That isn’t to say my opinions are all positive, because everybody is irritated and disappointed in some things.
Today, I will call myself an Optimist. In the past I would have called myself a Realist, which actually meant a Pessimist because my overall attitude was “Reality Really Sucks.” Don’t get me wrong, some stuff most certainly does actually suck. But that needn’t cast a shadow on everything else in life. It doesn’t make any sense to allow it to.
When you focus on all of the negative things that are happening or have happened in life, to the exclusion of everything else, you don’t allow any room for anything else. You close yourself off. Even good things that come your way are looked at in a suspicious and distrustful light. You sabotage relationships and opportunities. If all you are looking for is negativity, negativity is all you will find.
So what if we look for positivity instead?
Life is always going to have ups and downs, sorrows and joys, successes and failures. For every sad and terrible thing that happens, we feel anger and sadness intensely. But do we celebrate the wonderful and joyous things with equal enthusiasm and dedication? We allow a bad day to mar the days following it. But do we allow a good day to brighten the following days? The way we experience everything can become unbalanced when we give more power to negativity than it deserves.
What if instead of thinking about how long and hard it is, we think about all the new things we learn along the way. What if we focus on the good things when they happen and let the bad things roll off our backs? What if we expect that we will succeed, we will make it, it will be worth it? If all you are looking for is positivity, what will you find?